The more one does, the more one can do.
If you hear this word, it’s okay to walk away from a conversation. No, that word is not “vegan…” but close!
Omg. My mom was right. Actually, she’s sort of a loner, so not quite. However! On this week’s episode of The Starr Report, truth nuggets about why other people are important that are *so* large, even the most diehard survivalist will have to reconsider a few things.
2018 was the most stressful year of my life. Invasive surgery, multiple deaths in the family, making a big hiring mistake, dealing with another family member’s mental health issues—when I was supposed to be focused on promoting the book that I’d spent years working on, I was dealing with all of these, instead. This timing, I believe, can be called bad luck.
After I returned from the last funeral, I started taking my own advice: staying positive, prioritizing my health, throwing out clutter in my apartment and schedule. I realized that I was still too inwardly focused—ruminating about the past, comparing myself to others—instead of directing my attention outwards, where it’s most useful: my actions and thinking about how to help others.
Every year, I celebrate January 31st, my Anniversary of Not Dying (when I almost died in a car accident); to recover from 2018, I was planning on making the 16th Anniversary of Not Dying a special one. (My car accident is now old enough to drive!) However, as the result of digging deep into my own advice, I completely forgot about it. I was happily caught up in the moment.
What happened? This:
They say it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert – but not just any ol’ hours will do. The more efficient way to learn is deliberate practice, which involves looking at our mistakes, head on. Here’s how we can develop a better relationship with errors:
Growth mindset! Self-efficacy! Yes, you can!
Here are some things that we can actually change and/or improve:
So… just about anything. Seeing the results of your changed behaviors takes time, one reason why so many people give up prematurely. Don’t give up.