Do you want to date someone who’s a little bit cuter? Someone who seems out of your league? Allow me to take all the fun out of dating.

You want a hottie? Surprise! We all do. But since we’re not land barons in the Middle Ages, it’s not as easy as simply “choosing” someone. So how high do you aim? But more importantly: who do you decide to pursue?

Most of the time, we pursue someone who looks the part: someone cute who finds us cute. But the long road, a.k.a. the slow burn, is the best method to figuring out other people. Don’t immediately pursue others or put them in the friend zone. Suspend judgment. Be patient.