The more one does, the more one can do.
Do you want to date someone who’s a little bit cuter? Someone who seems out of your league? Allow me to take all the
fun mystery out of dating.
Unsurprisingly, everyone wants to end up with the person we find most attractive. But dating is two-sided: we can’t just “choose” someone, since they also have to think of us as a catch. This creates a two-sided marketplace. How high do you aim? But more importantly: who do you decide to pursue?
Most of the time, we pursue someone who looks the part: someone cute who finds us cute. Someone who looks like they’d be a good significant other. But the long road, a.k.a. the slow burn, is the best method to figuring out other people. Don’t immediately pursue others or put them in the friend zone. The way we learn about other people means that we often mistakenly let single or meaningless traits define the way we see them. Suspend judgment. Don’t think you have an idea of how you’ll end up relating to someone. Be patient.
Learned helplessness: it’s not just for dogs in Pennsylvania anymore. Change your world!
WYSIATI: the focusing illusion! Because we overemphasize the information that’s in front of our face, we don’t even realize how little we know. It’s easy to say that others who have what we want are lucky, simply because we often fail to see how different their lives are from our own.
Thank you, Daniel Kahneman, for helping me become the fittest female at my gym. You are the patron saint of my abs.
How can you get a lucky break? Find out in this week’s episode of The Starr Report!
What is self-esteem? It’s a commonly misunderstood trait that commonly gets mistaken for narcissism, in which people have a high, unstable self-esteem. A healthy self-esteem is stable, and a high global self-esteem is actually a great predictor of life outcomes.
On this episode of The Starr Report: Why You Should Wear My Love Like a Tattoo: